Just thought I'd post a link to an article on Aspie Employment which was posted on the Parenting Aspergers Blog today. It reinforces a lot of what I've been saying about the importance of the special interest.
I apologise for the excessive "male-orientated" viewpoint in this post. I tried to keep it neutral but somehow, it just works better when explained from a male viewpoint. Here's a phrase that I've seen repeated throughout the comments on this blog on several occasions; "I know that he won't miss me when I'm gone because he's aspie" Today, we're going to (try to) bust that myth; Individuals I'll start off with a reminder that everyone is an individual. If all aspies were completely alike and predictible, they'd be a stereotype but they're not. Each is shaped by their background, their upbringing, their beliefs and their local customs. An aspie who grew up with loud abusive parents has a reasonable chance of becoming loud and abusive themselves because in some cases, that's all they know. That's how they think adults are supposed to behave. In other cases, aspies who grew up in those circumstances do a complete about-fa
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I'm currently undergoing treatment for clinical depression and the psychiatrist suggested I have autistic tendencies such as my inability to to "feel" for the last 15 years.
In the last couple years I found a hobby I am obsessed with and a man who makes my heart ache every time I think of him. I got injured and can't do my hobby anymore and the man is getting married to someone else. Now i'm flooded with grief.
I end up crying without realising it and I can't stop. I tried staying away from him and I had a physical breakdown, vomiting, stopped sleeping, crying and screaming 24/7.
I don't know what to do anymore. I don't know how to cope. I've never believed in love, what people label love isn't what I read in books. It isn't forever for other people. But I haven't thought about another man since the day I met him, he's my best friend, the most beautiful person i've ever seen and we met in the gym where I taught him my hobby, my sport.
I can't live without him, when he gets married, i'll die.
How can I go back to not feeling? How can I shut down again so it doesn't hurt anymore?
Asperger's is like a blessing and a curse all in one. For so long I wouldn't let myself feel, now it's overwhelming.
How can I love another?
Blessing and curse indeed.