tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post1103983476753813582..comments2024-03-19T08:40:36.481+11:00Comments on Life with Aspergers: Embellishing StoriesGavin Bollardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13833941398375568706noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-41042310120963728022014-05-01T09:05:24.225+10:002014-05-01T09:05:24.225+10:00I have Aspergers and I used to have this problem a...I have Aspergers and I used to have this problem all the time. It started to catch up with me in a very bad way though, because in middle school and high school I would sometimes not do assignments or not go to meetings I was supposed to go to, and then when my parents would ask me if I did it I would lie and say I did, and convince myself so fully that even I was surprised when my teachers would send notes home saying I didn't do them. "Memory programming" is a really good way to put it, I would actually become so convinced that I did the assignments that I would even remember doing them, even though I knew deep-down that I didn't.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-85687896116591905492013-07-27T11:15:49.137+10:002013-07-27T11:15:49.137+10:00No matter how good I get at small talk, I will alw...No matter how good I get at small talk, I will always hate being asked how my day at school was. "Ummmmm, exactly the same as every day." If it really was that interesting, I would bring it up first.<br /><br />It is one of the reasons I had to leave my family home for college, as much as I love my parents. When I get out of school or work, I want to talk about something different from school or work. I do not want to come home and have to sugarcoat the truth if it was a terrible or boring day.<br /><br />On the other hand, when I finish a quarter at college and go on break, it is easy to talk about my internships, subjects I learned, and any new people I met.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14559050484005593112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-55757546104185567362013-07-15T07:21:43.922+10:002013-07-15T07:21:43.922+10:00"I know that my own eyes glaze over and I don..."I know that my own eyes glaze over and I don't give my own kids proper attention when they start talking about minecraft."<br /><br />It's good that you recognize that your kids want to be heard by their father (you) as much as you wanted to be heard by your father! :D<br /><br />It's much better than going "they should have to care about what I like, I shouldn't have to care what they like."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-64044488025055846632013-07-12T07:59:15.430+10:002013-07-12T07:59:15.430+10:00Gavin, what do you suggest for me, as a therapist,...Gavin, what do you suggest for me, as a therapist, to advise to young adult and adult clients who can find no one who shares their interests? It's hard to have friends when one cannot find people who share one's same interests. What have you found works for you, especially when it comes to conversing about things that are boring to you? Stephenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02452490151356174542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-54547583851358295522013-06-25T15:01:08.248+10:002013-06-25T15:01:08.248+10:00Thanks, Gavin. I think I needed your perspective o...Thanks, Gavin. I think I needed your perspective on this right now, perfect timing. My 15-year old talks of nothing but video games, and I just get sooo tired of it. But at least they are "nice" video games, not any of the violent ones, so I guess I should be thankful to always have to hear about Pokemon, or Mario or Sonic. I so want to hear about his day at school, but all I get is a replay of what video game they re-enacted after lunchtime... <br />I've been trying to "force" him into normal conversations, but maybe I just need to go with the flow a little more and let him be himself. I'd rather he be happy than accepted by others at all times. Thanks. AspieMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17757588231756067321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-24321563550828385772013-06-25T15:00:27.583+10:002013-06-25T15:00:27.583+10:00Thanks, Gavin. I think I needed your perspective o...Thanks, Gavin. I think I needed your perspective on this right now, perfect timing. My 15-year old talks of nothing but video games, and I just get sooo tired of it. But at least they are "nice" video games, not any of the violent ones, so I guess I should be thankful to always have to hear about Pokemon, or Mario or Sonic. I so want to hear about his day at school, but all I get is a replay of what video game they re-enacted after lunchtime... <br />I've been trying to "force" him into normal conversations, but maybe I just need to go with the flow a little more and let him be himself. I'd rather he be happy than accepted by others at all times. Thanks. AspieMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17757588231756067321noreply@blogger.com