tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post2595868471642083196..comments2024-03-19T08:40:36.481+11:00Comments on Life with Aspergers: The Primary School BullyGavin Bollardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13833941398375568706noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-46197850386008692162015-04-16T23:16:23.395+10:002015-04-16T23:16:23.395+10:00The situation becomes delicate when the bully is y...The situation becomes delicate when the bully is your boss. I've had that happen to me. HR departments aren't exactly always there to help either. It seems they are there mostly to protect the corporation, not the individual. Miguel Palaciohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02311154354365423829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-55023567209359425322012-04-26T06:46:37.013+10:002012-04-26T06:46:37.013+10:00" I've noticed the following with my son&..." I've noticed the following with my son's bully. When they were friends - age 6 - he seemed to need an intense "me-only" friendship from my son, who actually had many friends at school. He also used to steal from our home - the best Lego (Yoda, Harry Potter, Anakin figures. The best Dr Who card). When my son suspected it was likely to be William who stole from him, and when he finally got tired of the push-me pull-you aspect of their friendship at 7 or so, he stopped playing with Will outright."<br /><br />Sadly, I bet that some jerks out there will accuse your son of bullying William because <br /><br />(1) your son actually thinks about how Will treats him and chooses to deal with that behavior by not playing with Will anymore<br /><br />(2) your son has many friends, therefore your son is popular - and some people talk about popularity as if every popular child is a bully<br /><br />:(<br /><br />I wish your son the best of luck in dealing with this!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-32363907961119450842011-07-18T20:49:33.321+10:002011-07-18T20:49:33.321+10:00Then there's the Ender Wiggins approach. He pr...Then there's the Ender Wiggins approach. He pretty much put an end to the bullying he received.<br /><br />(This is humor, in case anyone misinterprets. I'm certainly not advocating violence. But as someone who was bullied terribly as a child, I definitely experienced some vicarious satisfaction when I read _Ender's Game_.)Graysonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02427975121533708983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-15676969869341252222011-03-06T01:02:31.132+11:002011-03-06T01:02:31.132+11:00What to eat... I've noticed the following with...What to eat... I've noticed the following with my son's bully. When they were friends - age 6 - he seemed to need an intense "me-only" friendship from my son, who actually had many friends at school. He also used to steal from our home - the best Lego (Yoda, Harry Potter, Anakin figures. The best Dr Who card). When my son suspected it was likely to be William who stole from him, and when he finally got tired of the push-me pull-you aspect of their friendship at 7 or so, he stopped playing with Will outright. IN MY OPINION, Will was so incensed and slighted by this that he retaliated - mercilessly. His bullying is all psychological and emotional - and I believe he has quite a dark core. I am at a loss how to help my son. William is a master rumour-mongerer and tells other children that my son says or does things he never has. He managed to cause a temporary rift between my son and three of his closest friends, all of whom thankfully have realised William's strategy because they too became victims at some point. I was even approached by the parents of those children who were also alarmed at William's behaviour. The school is unable to help because - intellectually - they understand what we are describing, but they have no evidence and can only try to keep the boys separated. William needs more than just a good slap, he needs a psychiatrist.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-19511905263112592672011-03-01T19:22:07.751+11:002011-03-01T19:22:07.751+11:00Bullying is a form of abuse. It involves repeated ...Bullying is a form of abuse. It involves repeated acts over time attempting to create or enforce one person's (or group's) power over another person (or group) , thus an "imbalance of power".Bullying types of behavior are often rooted in a would-be bully's inability to empathize with those whom he or she would target.<br />Some bullies are looking for attention. They might think bullying is a way to be popular or to get what they want.what to eat when trying for babyhttp://www.natural-fertility-prescription.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-33278042822808805032011-02-28T14:04:20.759+11:002011-02-28T14:04:20.759+11:00I agree that the common strategies for dealing wit...I agree that the common strategies for dealing with bullies don't work. Getting a bully caught sounds like an effective tactic, but it also requires more bravery than some perpetually bullied kids may be able to muster.<br /><br />I think our best bet is a cultural shift--deciding on a cultural level that bullying will not be tolerated and actively preventing the opportunity and intrinsic rewards for bullying behaviors.<br /><br />Unfortunately, not very practical for current victims.<br /><br />(On a side not, I've never gotten "try to be friends with them" or "play with them" either. Why would you want to play with or be friends with someone who enjoys tormenting others?)Stephaniehttp://embracingchaos.stephanieallencrist.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-72794899461567476342011-02-25T15:18:25.596+11:002011-02-25T15:18:25.596+11:00what about trying to increase the "victims&qu...what about trying to increase the "victims" self esteem? I often tell my Daughter just to ignore what the "mean kids say" If its not true. I never did figure out how to stop the "bullies" but you can stop how their behavior affects you. I do agree with the Zero tollerance, but what happens when the bullies are adults or teachers?Corabellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06432133467376630181noreply@blogger.com