tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post40968545716972134..comments2024-03-19T08:40:36.481+11:00Comments on Life with Aspergers: What is Aspergers: My Perspective - Part 3 (Labels and Tables)Gavin Bollardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13833941398375568706noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-87017933257179261882014-12-07T08:24:16.679+11:002014-12-07T08:24:16.679+11:00Thank you for the recommendation. Wenn told me it ...Thank you for the recommendation. Wenn told me it was self-published back in '94. And now it's out of publication. So I got there too late. Instead I was suggested the following by Wenn: "the closest to it is either: ASPoetry or Life behind glass; both published by Jessica Kingsley." Hope that helps. Miguel Palaciohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02311154354365423829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-17537480362400399172010-06-25T08:11:56.183+10:002010-06-25T08:11:56.183+10:00Anonymous,
Emily's post just said to me "...Anonymous,<br /><br />Emily's post just said to me "I took what I wanted and was happy". That's how I read it anyway.<br /><br />I'm not sure if it's possible to offend me.Gavin Bollardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13833941398375568706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-81782481577703718052010-06-25T04:27:13.987+10:002010-06-25T04:27:13.987+10:00Hey Gavin,
I'm wondering if you were initially...Hey Gavin,<br />I'm wondering if you were initially as taken aback as I was when reading Emily's post. I was at first offended, but on thinking a bit I realized what she meant. Not factual as in true, but as in facts and figures.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-45950038458140256252010-01-27T08:29:12.992+11:002010-01-27T08:29:12.992+11:00hi there,
i'll start off by saying that i lov...hi there,<br /><br />i'll start off by saying that i loved your analogies on asperger's, and that it is a good analogy for all kinds of misfits in the world. if only people would understand! isn't such a good analogy itself a sign of asperger's!!<br /><br />when i first found out about what asperger's syndrome was a year ago, i knew it sounded a bit like me but i didn't give it much thought because "lacking empathy" didn't sound like me. i'm very empathetic, and a strong defender of human rights. because i've always been hurt when people misunderstood me and tried to correct me, i've always been empathetic to others who are hurt.<br /><br />just yesterday when i was going through another one of my extremely lonely episodes where i couldn't figure out what's wrong with me, it suddenly clicked with me that perhaps asperger's is not about lacking empathy, but not knowing when or how to express it. and that's why despite me being extremely passionate about human rights and healing people, i'm not able to make friends or connect with people, and people find me "cold."<br /><br />as i re-read the signs of symptoms of asperger's, i was intrigued by how many i fulfilled, even if others don't realize it at first because i'm an adult who has learned a lot of social cues through painful life lessons. signs include - not being able to "connect" or have attachments to people, not making many friends, a usually quiet person who sometimes talks incessantly to the point of annoying people, very verbose intellectual writing and speaking (when given time to think), but poor writing and speaking when i'm just being me, non-sentimental, clumsy as a kid, sucked at all sports but learned dance well since dance allows methodical practice, and being very fidgety. what's more, just about a year ago i was diagnosed with ADD, when i just couldn't focus on first year of med school. although ADD is part of my symptoms, i feel now that asperger's might be the umbrella term for all my issues. <br /><br />could you share with me some thoughts about how i should go about getting (or not getting) a diagnosis as an adult? there's a very good reason why i wasn't diagnosed earlier, and that's because i grew up outside the US where awareness of psychology is low. i'll keep reading your blog to find out more.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-72121602403816168352010-01-27T05:58:53.855+11:002010-01-27T05:58:53.855+11:00Hi All,
Thanks so much for your blog!! I am a tr...Hi All, <br /> Thanks so much for your blog!! I am a true-blue Aspie as well and have a blog that i would like to share. I would love comments and feedback! Let me know what you think and if you have any questions I can answer. Thank You Gavin!! Way Cool! my blog: aspergersandthealien.blogspot.com.<br />I also plan on checking out that book "Life As An Alien" by Wendy Lawson....<br /> Amy MurphyAmy Maureen Murphyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13815560301698063906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-33501221365020357792010-01-26T09:53:29.493+11:002010-01-26T09:53:29.493+11:00Mr Bollard
I am doing a research project on AS fo...Mr Bollard<br /><br />I am doing a research project on AS for my biology class. I just wanted to let you know that your blog was very helpful to me in finding less factual and more personal aspects of AS. Thanks<br /><br />EmilyEmily Mockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15092954648712227387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-85775268320054205282010-01-25T09:14:43.425+11:002010-01-25T09:14:43.425+11:00Gavin,
I have just come across your blog today an...Gavin,<br /><br />I have just come across your blog today and read your three parts on "What is Aspergers--My Perspective." I love all the posts and want to dig into them. <br /><br />I have recently come to the conclusion that I probably have ASP. Can't say for sure as I am have many classic signs but don't have others. What I hope to find out and explore is not just how to live with it, but wondering if the most debilitating effects can be overcome? The impact on my marriage (number 2) and the seemingly sure demise it is going through now, the relationship (or lack thereof) with my children, my family, my ability to not function at peak performance at work, my need for lots of privacy and isolation, my lack of friends (and sometimes desire to just not have any), sometimes axiety in social situations, and so forth, have all left me with a less than fulfilling life. At the same time, I am not that ripped up about not having these things--yet I wonder what I am missing.<br /><br />What I do resonate with is the fact that I have some signs at not others. Nothing really fits into a neat package. A little of this and a little of that is what I see in myself. A few shades off, but maybe the same color. <br /><br />I took 3 psychiatry courses in college in the late 70's and early 80's and realized that this is a very inexact science. Unlike other modern medicines that treat physical illnesses, mental illnesses don't fit into the "have a headache--take a Motrin" cure. <br /><br />Anyway, thanks for the post and I would welcome anyone else's thoughts on what it means to live with this when those around them are so impacted, needing something else from me, and I have little or no empathy to offer anything at all.RREnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-19690453018957893632010-01-22T20:24:36.348+11:002010-01-22T20:24:36.348+11:00I love poetry.
Wendy Lawson wrote a great first, ...I love poetry.<br /><br />Wendy Lawson wrote a great first, self-published collection known as <i>Life as an Alien</i> back in 1998.<br /><br />I was encouraged to read it.Adelaide Duponthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01490123934889071074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-44092164596301268392010-01-22T00:19:16.257+11:002010-01-22T00:19:16.257+11:00Gavin, I just checked out Wendy Lawson's site....Gavin, I just checked out Wendy Lawson's site. She is wonderful. She does use a lot of poetry, which I don't like, but that is just my aversion to poetry in general.ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14623334804157705478noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-85159061938877520962010-01-21T21:01:14.289+11:002010-01-21T21:01:14.289+11:00Believe it or not, I haven't read Wendy Lawson...Believe it or not, I haven't read Wendy Lawson's take on the subject but it sounds interesting - particularly since we both seem to be saying similar things.Gavin Bollardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13833941398375568706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-49458146598418732462010-01-21T16:49:01.790+11:002010-01-21T16:49:01.790+11:00I like to use doors and windows as the concept (As...I like to use doors and windows as the concept (Asperger as label and way of seeing the world), taken from Wendy Lawson.Adelaide Duponthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01490123934889071074noreply@blogger.com