tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post5129256159056333096..comments2024-03-19T08:40:36.481+11:00Comments on Life with Aspergers: Get Away from Me with Your "Perfect Kids" - Part 4: School and Sports (Final)Gavin Bollardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13833941398375568706noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-71212668889138311292015-03-14T22:22:31.472+11:002015-03-14T22:22:31.472+11:00Thanks for the series. Next, a good one might be ...Thanks for the series. Next, a good one might be "Get away from me with your 'Perfect Employee'" xD. lolMiguel Palaciohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02311154354365423829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-89502336908204200982015-03-14T22:09:26.165+11:002015-03-14T22:09:26.165+11:00Sorry I'm lagging so much Gavin. That link to...Sorry I'm lagging so much Gavin. That link to the clip from the IT Crowd no longer is current. Miguel Palaciohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02311154354365423829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-31880040981056559992010-10-27T14:29:04.379+11:002010-10-27T14:29:04.379+11:00I haven't be on for a while, but one of the fi...I haven't be on for a while, but one of the fist places I wanted to stop in and read was your blog. I wanted to catch up with this series. Thank you Gavin for doing it. I like many others could relate in many ways. We experienced the "not getting the birthday invite" too many times. Years of answering the question, "Mommy, why don't I ever get invited?" OR... "Mommy you forgot to take me to so-and-so's party!" I could only respond with, I didn't know there was a party because we didn't get an invitation. Then quickly covering with, perhaps I lost it or it got lost in the mail... Anything but admitting that he was not invited. so sad, I am so glad that those days are behind us! We have attached ourselves to some great groups of families that are so supportive and it has done wonders for my emotional health as well as my son's! :)Just another Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11055286051125648905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-36616447574782479122010-10-22T15:44:40.577+11:002010-10-22T15:44:40.577+11:00I have loved this series about the "perfect c...I have loved this series about the "perfect child" syndrome, mostly because I've always felt the frustration and resentment towards other people's "perfect" kids, but was never able to put into words why it frustrated me so much. As the parent of a recently diagnosed ADHD Dyslexic Aspie 9-year old boy, it's been so nice to follow up on everything you've written and not only do I now feel less isolated with the issues that we face as a family trying to survive the day to day stuff, but I'm also seeing things now through my son's perspective, especially in that piece about your son's meltdown over the sucker he received at school as his "reward", which prompted a big misunderstanding and eventual meltdown. I feel like we live through so many of the "misunderstandings" and meltdowns, but your description of the event really helped me see things from a new angle. I am finally beginning to live my son's life a bit more through his eyes, and it has helped me understand him much, much more. Thank you for all of your resources and personal stories as an adult who not only is currently raising children with these challenges, but has lived through them personally as well. They are invaluable. (I've also passed your blog along to family members who see our son regularly, so that they in turn can begin to understand him better.)ACBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03516793596987051072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-26735793288054705802010-10-21T10:47:33.301+11:002010-10-21T10:47:33.301+11:00Bulldogma, I'm with you! Several years ago, we...Bulldogma, I'm with you! Several years ago, we got one of those letters, with all the achievements listed next to a photo of each person in the family. My then-12-year-old daughter took one look at it and said, "I'm sure glad I don't live in THAT family." <br /><br />Me too, honey. Me too.Rachel Cohen-Rottenberghttp://www.journeyswithautism.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-53206546437523856062010-10-21T08:57:17.727+11:002010-10-21T08:57:17.727+11:00Actually, I'd be one of the people who is guil...Actually, I'd be one of the people who is guilty of sending newsletters at Christmas but I'm always careful to keep them a balance of healthy optimism, humour and sarcasm.Gavin Bollardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13833941398375568706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-68653267016778923842010-10-21T06:52:20.797+11:002010-10-21T06:52:20.797+11:00You know what I hate? I HATE holiday cards... you ...You know what I hate? I HATE holiday cards... you know... the ones with the 6 page letter touting each family member's achievements for the year. Little Rodney got straight "A's" all year and is playing on the invitation-only soccer league for the state, and little Jane is her class president and was voted "most popular" by the entire school, blah, blah, blah!<br /><br />I cannot tell you just how thrilled I am to hear about these people's charmed life in which the worst thing that has happened all year was a flat tire on the way to cheer leading practice (because of course their kid is the captain of the squad, right?).<br /><br />I am lucky in one sense - our schools have a rule that children may not bring birthday party invitations to school unless they are inviting the entire class.<br /><br />My daughter is a "smart" Aspie... when she wants to be. She's still not doing so great this year at school. She'd rather line up all the papers on her desk instead of actually do the work on them (they just look so messy that way). Smart or no, we still have to deal with emotional blow-ups of titanic proportions!<br /><br />As luck would have it, we have an Aspie just a year older right next door. He's an ADHD Aspie, but the two get along quite well (but, oh, the trouble they get into if we're not watching at all times)!<br /><br />At any rate, thank you so much for your blog!Bulldogmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04773653470602929019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-88906622125019523602010-10-20T16:19:38.461+11:002010-10-20T16:19:38.461+11:00My sister had a similar situation where he son was...My sister had a similar situation where he son was the only one left out of a party. She went up to the mother and asked "I'm not sure if it was your intention but my son is the only one not invited so I just wanted to check to see if the invite got lost on th eway or not." He gotm his invite and noone else left him out afterwards. My sister felt rude asking but wanted to stand up for her son. Parents need to be aware that you invite everyone or a select group. Its just simple manners. If someone is worried about a child in this situation say to the parent of said child "we're having a party and your child is invited, do you think they would cope better if you stayed with them."<br />On the case of sport I have found that on the main AFL teams seem to cater better for children with needs than soccer. My kids play for Kellyville and I have seen first hand this being the case.Janenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-29804073328741185982010-10-20T14:15:33.733+11:002010-10-20T14:15:33.733+11:00Thank you for writing this series.Thank you for writing this series.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16484931572676431046noreply@blogger.com