tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post898745391270709138..comments2024-03-19T08:40:36.481+11:00Comments on Life with Aspergers: Organisation and the AspieGavin Bollardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13833941398375568706noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-68324205324603579892012-12-06T20:42:25.629+11:002012-12-06T20:42:25.629+11:00My biggest problem with change resistance is that ...My biggest problem with change resistance is that if someone calls me at the last minute to change a plan, it really wrecks me emotionally, and I have to spend a long time talking myself down. I find that I usually have to have a day's worth of warning with a plan change for it not to upset me. Also, changes to recurring plans upset me more: for example, I have sushi with a friend of mine every Wednesday. If he emails me anytime the week before and says he can't go, I end up crying, despite the fact that I know it's a completely reasonable thing to do and he knows to give me plenty of warning.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-30443754357722439702012-05-24T12:54:24.997+10:002012-05-24T12:54:24.997+10:00My 8 years old son who I strongly believe has Aspe...My 8 years old son who I strongly believe has Aspergers and somehow managed to fool the psychiatrist who tried to diagnose him, is extremely smart, has known how to read time before he was 4, without anyone teaching him of course.... well he still cannot remember the order of the days of the week.... Odd isn t it ?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-87761776314640113982010-10-21T03:35:54.226+11:002010-10-21T03:35:54.226+11:00You know...your wife and I are alike in our feelin...You know...your wife and I are alike in our feelings about the "whats the plan for today?" questions! :) For years, my husband has asked that, and I just feel like saying (and sometimes do say) "I don't know. Just however it works out."<br /><br />Similar to desifeminists, he's not exactly always organized or living such a scheduled routine...He has problems getting to sleep at night, so he'll stay up until the wee hours of the morning, and sleep until noon most days, and then start the day off at an odd time.<br /><br />However, to function well, he usually writes out a to-do list for the day, and even plans projects to do for the next several days and how many hours it will take each to happen. If it's a written list, once he scratches off a few things, he'll start a new one that's neater. Otherwise, it's in Excel and it's easy for him to keep managed there.<br /><br />I'm going to be making my own post on our family routine and everything soon too, maybe today, so there will be more info there if you want to check it out. Just don't want to hi-jack your comments. :)<br /><br />Thanks again for posting this though! Very interesting.<br /><br />www.ntwifeaspielife.blogspot.comntwifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03095877887662910478noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-70072146129212458742010-01-27T19:28:31.472+11:002010-01-27T19:28:31.472+11:00the resistance to change thing was hard for me to ...the resistance to change thing was hard for me to understand too. but i identify with your explanation of it. sometimes i get unnecessarily irritated if someone asks me to do something outside of my "routine." and it's weird because i don't even have a routine and i'm a terrible procrastinator. however, routine for me is really the comfort in my mind, not a time table. i think it would baffle people to see how unorganized i am by myself, since i can seem rather "organized" about not doing extraneous activities like going out, etc.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-52336757773714773612009-05-03T07:28:00.000+10:002009-05-03T07:28:00.000+10:00Your post raises an interesting point that crosses...Your post raises an interesting point that crosses two realms. That of the Aspie and that of personality. What you are describing here is a personality trait. Look at the Myers Briggs Personality Profiler. You are describing someone that is impulsive, lacking discipline and tends to leave things to the last minute. The MBTI describes this trait quite well. So, in combining the pair, I disagree. I have my days planned mentally but as for things getting done, they are done according to my schedule.<br />As for the diaries/planners and the like, I too get one each year. They last about two weeks and then become paperweights. My intrinsic planning does not require additional external planning because that is a waste of energy and time. Why would I write something down if I know I have to do it anyway. (lists are different.) Now for appointments, I use the outlook calender. To understand more of where I am coming from lookup the ISTJ profile on MBTI.Damonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-59825101312528954162009-03-20T00:32:00.000+11:002009-03-20T00:32:00.000+11:00This is so true! I have a box full of planners. E...This is so true! I have a box full of planners. Everytime I buy one I convince myself that I will use it. Not even a week later its stashed in a drawer somewhere. I bought an expensive palm pilot about ten years ago when they were the new 'thing' and it too ended up in a drawer. I joined the army at 18 thinking it would be a good choice and still years later I have a hard time getting to work at 630am even though we do the same thing every single day.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-84441453254166086782008-12-01T06:04:00.000+11:002008-12-01T06:04:00.000+11:00Great post, Thanks!Great post, Thanks!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-5596458973281544182008-08-16T12:05:00.000+10:002008-08-16T12:05:00.000+10:00Diaries are completely useless for me for exactly ...Diaries are completely useless for me for exactly the same reasons.<BR/>My example of forgetting to do things is I do the dishes every weekend when I'm home and my mother has to remind me every single weekend. I wonder if making rules about it would help, so then bad things will happen if we don't do it.jarro_2783https://www.blogger.com/profile/11943575160447962170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-22677643939060459502007-11-01T18:00:00.000+11:002007-11-01T18:00:00.000+11:00it does seem like aspies struggle with the kind of...it does seem like aspies struggle with the kind of organization you're talking about.. I do OK if people tell me where to be and when.. but I stress terribly when I'm the one planning something eg birthdays etc.. <BR/> your posts are really good... keep it upAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com