tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post980542205942408938..comments2024-03-19T08:40:36.481+11:00Comments on Life with Aspergers: The Asperger's Special Interest's Impact on Making and Keeping FriendsGavin Bollardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13833941398375568706noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-32070383155968015862018-01-10T22:46:55.017+11:002018-01-10T22:46:55.017+11:00"I wouldn't mind someone going on and on ..."I wouldn't mind someone going on and on about computers because it's interesting, but sometimes people just talk about nothing just to hear their own voices, like a girl at work telling me it was raining and the toilet paper in her bag got wet, and she kept going on and on about that until I wanted to scream, I don't want to hear about your toilet paper!"<br /><br />For all I know, that girl at work is Aspie herself and has a special interest in toilet paper and wants to scream "I don't want to hear about your computers!" because someone else going on and on about computers isn't interesting *to her*.<br /><br />Does that make you anti-Aspie? Nope, same way it's still not anti-Aspie for someone else to not enjoy another person's monologue about computers or Star Wars or whatever.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-50735523362699137102018-01-10T22:43:01.103+11:002018-01-10T22:43:01.103+11:00"I work with computers all day now and the la..."I work with computers all day now and the last thing I want to talk about when I get home is computers. My eldest son seems to have a special interest in mobile phone technologies and he'll go on for hours if you let him about the latest phones, their operating systems and their technical capabilities. My youngest son finds this boring. He's into computers and will talk about motherboards, and gaming and the capabilities of various graphics cards. It's amazing to me that their topics can be so similar and yet so "boring to each other".<br /><br />I'm always trying to teach them to talk TO each other, not AT each other but it's harder than you'd expect to get the point across and to change these bad habits. "<br /><br />Does it help to point out that, for each of you 3, the other 2 *are in the same situation as NTs* when it comes to being talked at?<br /><br />Like:<br /><br />"Think about how you feel when your brother talks AT you instead of TO you. <br /><br />If someone who wasn't already in your family, who you weren't already stuck with, did that to you then would you want to be his/her friend?<br /><br />You woulodn't?<br /><br />That's why other kids, NT and Aspie and others, don't want to be your friend if you talk AT them instead of TO them".Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-78359127768803648152017-12-08T16:46:41.197+11:002017-12-08T16:46:41.197+11:00I used to go on and on about cats, and the other l...I used to go on and on about cats, and the other little girls in school were so angry. I only realized I've upset them now, looking back. But I was fascinated by them and still am. <br /><br />I also like doing mundane things together like going to the supermarket or just walking down the street. It's a way of communication all by itself, spending time together. And I've learned to talk about other things too, like what happened during the day at work and people I've seen on the bus. <br /><br />I wouldn't mind someone going on and on about computers because it's interesting, but sometimes people just talk about nothing just to hear their own voices, like a girl at work telling me it was raining and the toilet paper in her bag got wet, and she kept going on and on about that until I wanted to scream, I don't want to hear about your toilet paper!Aspie girl bloghttp://aspieblogging.blogspot.co.il/noreply@blogger.com