tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post5083082352645152140..comments2024-03-19T08:40:36.481+11:00Comments on Life with Aspergers: Changing Yourself - Part 2 Forget Entitlement, Seek Inner Peace InsteadGavin Bollardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13833941398375568706noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-57301127024332600972017-03-25T13:50:53.160+11:002017-03-25T13:50:53.160+11:00Will there be a part 3?Will there be a part 3?maximiliano.bravohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16922098435873620983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-77568473932577452832015-10-12T09:25:43.728+11:002015-10-12T09:25:43.728+11:00I think this issue of entitlement also affects rel...I think this issue of entitlement also affects relationships between Aspies and NTs.<br />Some of the behavior I read about in other threads here, where the Aspie breaks off an apparently good relationship with an NT more or less out of the blue, may stem from the Aspie feeling there is always a "better" relationship, a younger, prettier and more understanding dream woman just over the horizon. I don't want to say to a man in his 40s, who never had a long-term relationship, is too squeamish for sex, is unable to express love and given to periodic meltdowns, periods of silence and coldness that his options are limited and that he might be better off with the loving, presentable and understanding woman he has. It would be too hurtful to him--but he is also living in a dream AND hurting his significant other.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-72246077440085035372015-10-06T21:55:50.416+11:002015-10-06T21:55:50.416+11:00http://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-34450062 d...http://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-34450062 describes this issue and the Oregon attack in that community college.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-43823754113426496192015-08-03T19:09:48.353+10:002015-08-03T19:09:48.353+10:00This was a very great article. Thank you for writi...This was a very great article. Thank you for writing it.<br />I agree that finding peace is very powerful—and I was wondering what you might think are some ways to find inner peace?<br />For me, in my life, I would say that meditation has profoundly impacted my happiness and levels of peace and tranquility. <br />Also, mentoring has. For the past year I've been mentoring a few students, some of them with Asperger's. <br />Dance, too, changed my life for the better. <br />I did do some research actually, and I found out that there are five habits which provide people with a sustained increase in wellbeing (over several months and years, even after stopping the activities). Here they are:<br />meditating.<br />exercising<br />gratitudes<br />random act of kindness<br />journaling<br />Doing those habits every day will make you happier. Pick one. Start today. <br />Jon Kabat Zinn is great for meditations. <br />—<br />EricEric Earlehttp://www.mentorportland.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-90090119954691259622015-07-31T00:15:03.592+10:002015-07-31T00:15:03.592+10:00The Kiss of PeaceBy Gede Pramahttp://www.bellofpea...The Kiss of PeaceBy Gede Pramahttp://www.bellofpeace.org/“Why do women close their eyes when they are kissed?”, this is the question of many teenagers. Every spiritual friends who grow deep in meditation know, the true beauty is hidden within. The outer beauty is merely the reflection of the inner harmony.Sadly, very few of people in this age who can meet deep beauty like this. Most human beings fight against themselves. On the path of compassion, it is often heard a beautiful message like this: “be kind to those who harm you. They are fighting. And they do not fight against you, they fight agains themselves”.This explains why life is burning in many places. Hospitals are full, the victims of drugs increase significantly, the story of divorce and suicide are very touching. In short, very few of people who find the inner harmony recently. Most people are burning in the chaotic inner conflict.As has been shared very often in meditation classes, there are many seeds of violence were planted within us. Family, schools, leaders, society planted countless seeds of violence in our inner life. That’s why many people can be easily burnt simply because of small things.At the level of healing, meditation keep teaching the approach of selective watering. Students are suggested to water only the seeds of peace. To put it clearly, surround yourself with people who support your peace journey. Every time the memory of violence appear in the mind, learn to smile to the bad memory, learn not to react in the forms of speech or action.Quoting the teachings of ancient Indian in America, within us there are good and bad wolves which keep fighting every day. And the winner is the one who is fed every day. With the approach of smiling to the seeds of violence within, not to react in the forms of words and actions, one is no longer feeding the bad wolf within.In the language of meditation: “recognize mind as mind, not as a truth. Recognize feelings as feelings, not as yourself. That is how meditation cures many lives”. Anyone who diligently practice meditation like this, one day they will experience a deep healing. And they are no longer burnt by the heat of life everywhere.At the level of perfection, the selective approach of watering is not necessary. What is needed is a consistency to witness without choosing (choiceless awareness). Every movements of life outside and inside, both are similar to snow flakes falling into the lake. It causes ripples for a while, but finally they disappear.Meditate or not, praying or not, that’s the natural nature of life. Everything grow follow their own law. Shade trees invite the coming of birds. The blooming flowers invite the coming of butterflies. How bad or how beautiful everyday life, everything simply appear and then disappear. It is as simple as snow flakes falling into the lake.Any inner seekers who are one with the daily meditative life like this, they can transform life into a song of harmony. This is what allows a person to find the true beauty within. In the depth of beauty within, life is the kiss of peace.Author: Gede PramaPelayan Keheninganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12448518756726276165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-9164585092593774162015-07-14T09:03:17.480+10:002015-07-14T09:03:17.480+10:00http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2014/05/27/y...http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2014/05/27/your-princess-is-in-another-castle-misogyny-entitlement-and-nerds.html and http://www.newstatesman.com/lifestyle/2014/05/lets-call-isla-vista-killings-what-they-were-misogynist-extremism describe this issue and the Santa Barbara attack.<br /><br />http://abcnews.go.com/US/story?id=8258525&page=1 describes this issue and the Pittsburgh attack.<br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-83693195037603132832015-06-24T07:39:50.813+10:002015-06-24T07:39:50.813+10:00As far as "Evidence" is concerned, I hav...As far as "Evidence" is concerned, I have (several times) found myself in the position of trying to "talk down" people with Asperger's who have this false sense of entitlement and feel that they should be taking action. <br /><br />I can also remember reading quotes from the perpetrators of Sandy Hook style attacks (can't remember which specific attacks as there have now been too many). Those quotes specifically talked about revenge due to unfulfilled "entitlement".Gavin Bollardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13833941398375568706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-90868465815283622102015-06-24T07:39:50.148+10:002015-06-24T07:39:50.148+10:00As far as "Evidence" is concerned, I hav...As far as "Evidence" is concerned, I have (several times) found myself in the position of trying to "talk down" people with Asperger's who have this false sense of entitlement and feel that they should be taking action. <br /><br />I can also remember reading quotes from the perpetrators of Sandy Hook style attacks (can't remember which specific attacks as there have now been too many). Those quotes specifically talked about revenge due to unfulfilled "entitlement".Gavin Bollardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13833941398375568706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-48591399722269787882015-06-24T07:28:38.306+10:002015-06-24T07:28:38.306+10:00"One of the most common social misconceptions..."One of the most common social misconceptions that people with Asperger's frequently develop is the idea that they are entitled to a girlfriend"<br />Do you have any evidence of this? I never felt entitled to a girlfriend.Ralph Doncasterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00037504544742962130noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-62767781411990542022015-06-11T10:39:02.487+10:002015-06-11T10:39:02.487+10:00Thanks for your efforts, your experiences are prec...Thanks for your efforts, your experiences are precious.wenkuang chenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07767475934429200304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-61288246212882912482015-06-10T00:36:29.840+10:002015-06-10T00:36:29.840+10:00" It’s one thing to fight for your right to w..." It’s one thing to fight for your right to water but it’s entirely different to become violent simply because you believe you have a right to a person. "<br /><br />is such a good point!<br /><br />Also, remember that the rights everyone does deserve include the right to not be forced into sex and romantic relationships with people whom they don't want. <br /><br />Becoming violent simply because one believes that he or she has a right to another person's affection isn't only harmful and illogical, it's even *violating the rights of the other person*.<br /><br />He or she deserves the right to say no to dating one, the same way one deserve the right to say no to dating someone else.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com