tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post950636260456474079..comments2024-03-19T08:40:36.481+11:00Comments on Life with Aspergers: Article: Reflection on Grief and LossGavin Bollardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13833941398375568706noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-10259114056844672242009-07-04T04:26:42.636+10:002009-07-04T04:26:42.636+10:00Sometimes I'll say that my husband doesn't...Sometimes I'll say that my husband doesn't feel emotion, but I know that he does. I know the way he feels or interprets it is different than I or others do and I definitely know he shows it differently (or not at all), but I need to be more careful with my wording and not say that he doesn't feel.just mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18178410156526182978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-78854508840849055502009-06-09T17:15:21.418+10:002009-06-09T17:15:21.418+10:00Last week my father went in for a 5 way bypass. At...Last week my father went in for a 5 way bypass. At some time he died for 20 minutes. I asked him of this later and he was shocked I knew. I was then enlightened as to what went on. As for feelings, I had none. There were no emotions either just the blank void even talking to him about his death. I couldn't even do sympathy. It was just data.<br />I suppose I was in the hold the family together mode and would address the feelings later. I'm still learning to express my feelings but here is how I differntiated it (away from the situation). My central nervous system was going ballistic (it looked like I was in severe coffee withdrawl the shakes were that bad). The stomach had an uneasy calmness and the brain had this pulsating ball of raw energy just waiting to explode. And to make things worse, I was pushing all this aside to be strong for the family. <br />Well the family is now back together I have begun to decompress. I am not looking forward to diffusing that ball of energy.<br />So I do feel. I have compassion. Empathy... meh. I am also frustrated that by me recognising the appropriate social cues I am classed as having empathy and therefore not aspie. They are wayyy off and many of the books I read are either incorrect or misunderstanding their subjects. We feel!Damonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-81182475231702973062009-06-09T09:00:21.366+10:002009-06-09T09:00:21.366+10:00Did you see the recent article about AS and feelin...Did you see the recent article about AS and feelings? I posted about it <a href="http://staticvox.blogspot.com/2009/05/people-with-aspergers-do-feel.html" rel="nofollow">here</a>.Stat Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15458000836896444929noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4841851020927689161.post-85028098922554991862009-06-01T20:38:57.083+10:002009-06-01T20:38:57.083+10:00I was given an erroneous diagnosis of Narcissistic...I was given an erroneous diagnosis of Narcissistic Personality Disorder for my "lack" of empathy.LizzieK8https://www.blogger.com/profile/17418678210403829598noreply@blogger.com