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Before 2006, I had no idea that a condition called Aspergers even existed but when my eldest son, then 6 was diagnosed with it I was suddenly thrown into the learning cycle. The more I learned about it, the more it seemed to apply to me rather than to my son.

Eventually, after some not-so-subtle hints from my son's teachers, we talked to a psychologist about the suspicion that I might be "aspie" and he confirmed our suspicions. This discovery triggered an ongoing review of my life in the light of this new data and I started this blog as a means of firstly reaching out to others with similar experiences and secondly exploring and promoting the positive side of Asperger's.

A couple of years later, my youngest son was diagnosed with high functioning autism. In my quest to find the difference between my two sons, I discovered that apart from a language delay, which can be overcome by speech therapy, they're clinically identical. It's something that has led psychologists to abandon the Aspergers label in favour of the all-encompassing "autism spectrum" one.

These days I write about autism but I've kept the title, "Life with Asperger's" because it more accurately describes a certain level of functionality within the autism spectrum and I feel that my experience and knowledge doesn't adequately cover the lower end of the spectrum.

About this Blog

The goal for this blog is to describe what it is like living with Asperger's Syndrome and to focus on the positive aspects of the condition rather than the negative. This blog is personal, non-medical, (reasonably) non-technical and not affiliated with any religious or other organisations. The overall aim of this blog is to increase the amount of first-hand knowledge about Asperger's syndrome and to encourage other to accept and embrace it within themselves and others.

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Life With Aspergers (LWA) does not collect personal information for any purposes but is connected to services, such as Google Blogger, Facebook and Twitter which do. Information that you provide such as your name and email address is only used for authentication and where you have requested it, notifications of new posts or new comments. Under no circumstances will your data be passed on to other agencies.  You may unsubscribe from the LWA components of these services at any time.

Contacting me

I'm always happy to talk to people in similar situations or who have an interest in Aspergers and/or Autism.

You can contact me via my contact form

or directly by email using;
gavin dot bollard at gmail dot com.
(I've not provided a direct link to reduce spam but you should be able to work it out).

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