Abelism: the view that the able-bodied are the norm in society, and that people who have disabilities must either strive to become that norm or should keep their distance from able-bodied people.
aspie: affectionate term for someone with Asperger's Syndrome.
Please note that some people with Asperger's Syndrome may find this term offensive and you should check with them before using it to describe them.
Note: People can want therapies to help their children better integrate into society (eg: Speech) without being a curebie.
Normal" is a difficult term to justify. NT simply refers to the most common patterns of thinking.
DisclaimersMost of the generalizations offered on this site are things that affect me personally. I'm not offering any guarantees that they are asperger's related, though I suspect they are (otherwise I wouldn't be posting them here).
All aspies are unique and behavioral patterns are shaped by experience as much as genetics. Your experience may be significantly different to mine.
I have no medical background and all medical advice, terminology and discussion on this blog should be taken as layperson comments only. You should always confirm medical advice with a doctor before proceeding.
Guest PostsThe aim for this blog is for it to be "my take" on Asperger's and Autism. As a result, guest posts are incredibly rare. I'm always happy to hear about new topics but I simply don't take guest posts.
If you want to talk about autism in this space, you can either do this via comments or you can post on the Life with Asperger's Facebook page.
Comments PolicyMy comments policy for this blog is that all non-spam comments should be published regardless of whether or not I agree with the content and regardless of whether or not they may contain offensive material. It's freedom of speech and sometimes disagreeing comments can provoke a lot of interesting thought and debate.
I will not make changes to the content of comments and will usually not make changes to my posts as a result of comments - preferring to create a new post and preserve "history".
The only other time that comments other than obvious spam will be rejected is when I feel that they have compromised someone's identity or made a major and unfair attack on a person/race/religion/ diagnostic or disability status etc. Please don't post email and contact information in comments and do not refer to people other than yourself by their full names. Some people prefer to have their identities protected.
As a general rule, remember that the comments should be mainly directed at the posts rather than at other commenter It's okay to disagree with someone but it is not okay to refer to them by name and then call them "stupid" or any other derogatory terms. If in doubt, leave names out.
If you feel that I've approved a comment which should not be displayed, please let me know. Sometimes I don't immediately comprehend that something is insulting and/or dangerous. I welcome your feedback on such issues.
If your comment is removed due to infringement, I'll happily accept replacement comments provided that they don't infringe the commenting rules. You can ensure that those comments are accepted by being careful with your wording.
Being OffensiveFrom time to time - or perhaps constantly, I will post material which may be offensive to some. For example, many people do not like the word "aspie" but it's more readable than the alternative "person who has been diagnosed with asperger's sydrome". I do not mean to offend but equally I can't adjust for every single person's preference. If I offend, please let me know and if possible I'll try to make amends.
Please remember that many of the posts in this blog were written quite some time ago, decades ago even, when the language was different. In my more recent posts, I try to use the words "autistic people", "people with autism", "aspies" people "on the spectrum" etc interchangeably. I don't know if that makes it better or worse but I do know that no matter what I do, there's no pleasing everybody.