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Article: Reflections on Being an Aspie Parent

I discovered this post via RSS today. It's probably the best post I've ever read on aspie parenting and it needs to be read.

Reflections on Being an Aspie Parent
http://www.aspergerjourneys.com/2009/03/16/reflections-on-being-an-aspie-parent/

So often, I find people asking on forums whether people with Aspergers should be able to have children. I hear questions about the worthiness of aspie traits in today's society and worst of all, I hear these questions coming from Aspies themselves.

In this particular article, Rachel talks about the strengths that she, as an aspie brings to parenting using real life examples. It's one of the most comprehensive and uplifting articles on Aspergers that I've read in a long time.

Well done Rachel!
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Anonymous said…
Many thanks, Gavin!
March 17, 2009 at 12:15 PM
Angela said…
Thanks for sharing this, what a great post!
March 19, 2009 at 11:14 PM
Anonymous said…
Well I shall nip along and take a peek in that case.
Cheers
March 21, 2009 at 10:27 AM
Anonymous said…
You have made my day. I know I am reading this... "slightly" after the fact, but it just really hit home.

I have the most amazing partner in the world. She is totally accepting of the fact that I'm an aspie, and that sometimes I just can't do those little things. But she also has three kids, and primary custody. So I went from being a single twenty-one year old who had just become a veteran, to practically a step-parent overnight. I have some spectacular failures. (Like the 30-minute smackdown I received from the 7 year old, because I confused her). But I have some utterly amazing attaboys. (Like how she apologized for that on her own, because she understood that she had really hurt me and done something wrong.)
And my girlfriend has actually thanked me on multiple occasions for the traits that make me an aspie. To know that I'm not the only one... Thanks.
April 9, 2009 at 8:15 AM
Anonymous said…
Great post. G has never taken part in PE as he will not change in to a PE because of bullying and worrying about people seeing him getting changed.
April 18, 2009 at 9:30 AM
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