Although the answer to this question may seem simple, it recurs with alarming regularity on aspie forums everywhere. Often, it is confused with the aspie's ability to find a partner or the famous aspie empathy problems - these are different things altogether which I'll hopefully discuss in follow-up posts. Emotional Behavior in Aspies Aspies are very capable of loving but they often confuse the issue by adopting an altogether too rigid view of love. Despite popular mis-belief, aspies are generally fairly emotional beings. We have intense feelings of happiness and even more intense feelings of sadness. The smallest triggers can produce huge emotional responses in us. While a bad day at work may make an NT grumpy, it could make an aspie feel suicidal. Similarly, when something good happens an aspie may seem to be over-reacting or overly happy. Most aspie adults have long since learned to control excessive displays of happiness but it's very apparent in aspie children...
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I have 2 points regarding IEP's - not enough time is given. Teacher's think that 30mins is enough time to talk through every detail about your child.
Secondly, there is not enough funding and help given to kids with problems.
It sounds like you and your son arrived at a viable alternative, and I'm sure Cubby will find his niche successfully. For younger kids (my son is 10) though, homeschooling or private school might be the only other alternatives.
BTW - I was a pleasure speaking with you at the ASPEN conference yesterday. I really enjoyed your talk and can't wait to read your new book! Good luck with it!
Joanne
Doesn't Oklahoma have time limits by which things have to happen? (In NJ an initial meeting must be held within 20 calendar days from the date of referral to determine if an evaluation will be conducted. From that point, the school must conclude the evaluation and hold the eligibility determination meeting within 90 days.)
Perhaps you should investigate Parental Rights in Special Education for your state, if you haven't already done so. Knowledge is power!
And if your state doesn't have any official policies regarding timing, I would still follow-up frequently on status to keep your child in the forefront of their minds....you don't want to lose a whole school year if you can avoid it.
Good luck!
Very relieved that homeschooling lets us avoid the battle of IEPs!