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Article: Displaying Confidence in Your Special Needs Child

Today I am posting over at Special-ism

Displaying Confidence in your Special Needs Child
http://special-ism.com/displaying-confidence-in-your-special-needs-child/

It's an article about learning to let go and stopping yourself from reducing your child's hurdles simply because you, don't feel that they will be able to compete.  Sometimes you have to trust your children and let them fail ... or succeed.

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Anonymous said…
This is great. Thanks. The worry i have at times is that teachers might be a bit 'tokenistic' with my child. Is her work and effort really as fantastic as they report or fantastic 'considering that she has special needs'. I dont want to remedial parent but i dont want her patronised either. Its difficult to know....
June 27, 2012 at 8:22 PM
evedwards said…
My mom is like this too, she isn't easy with letting me go. I'm in college, 4th year, and even thought I'm struggling, I'm still going forward.

I hope more parents of special needs children understand and know when to let go sometimes...

Evan
June 27, 2012 at 10:08 PM
sharon Morris said…
Such an important topic.

I try to create a mix of understanding with high expectations for my kids. My son was diagnosed young at 2, but my daughter not until very recently at 7. Not knowing of her Aspergers status means we haven't treated her differently. In some ways I think that has served her well as the bar of expectation has never been lowered for her. And the fact that she has managed to get by all this time without us knowing means there's no need to reduce our confidence in her ability.
July 2, 2012 at 8:44 AM
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