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Article: Change Your Child’s Behavior to Attract Less Attention

My latest post out at Special-ism is about changing your child's behavior to attract less attention. I'm always encouraging people within the autism community to be proud of themselves and to be themselves.  The problem is that behavior that is too far "outside the norm" can draw a lot of unwanted attention.

The best thing to do is to tread a cautious middle-ground and that's the point of the post, to show ways that normal autistic behaviors can be modified to become less noticeable.

Hop over to Special-ism for a read;

Change Your Child’s Behavior to Attract Less Attention
http://special-ism.com/change-your-childs-behavior-to-attract-less-attention/
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Jessica said…
Great article. We are currently working with my 13 year old son on when/where it is "cool" to arm flap. Now that he is 13 and in middle school, his biggest motivation for developing an awareness of his flapping is so he can drive when he turns 16.I'm wondering if anyone has any resources on whether teens who arm flap are successful at driving. Not sure how this will play out, but I figure the sooner we start working on this, the better.
October 9, 2014 at 6:28 AM
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