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The Usual Disclaimers

I'm not a "legal" person, and I know that most people don't bother reading legal things, so I'm writing this in plain English. Ideally that shouldn't affect the legal potency of this work...

Ownership of Material
Technically I am the owner of all material posted on this blog, however I grant everyone the right to use it in any way they want to (except to bring legal action, abuse or other horrible stuff down onto me). It would be nice if you were to acknowledge the source, but I know that in the connected world, this isn't always possible, so I won't hold you to it.

You can copy it, send it around, change words (on your copy, not on mine) etc...

Insulting Statements etc.
I will be trying hard not to insult people or companies or make libelous statements, but sometimes you do these things without thinking. If I offend anyone, please let me know (there should be some sort of email link on this blog somewhere), and I will remove the offending entry post-haste.

Don't sue me or take any form of legal action (I hate that sort of thing), just let me know, I'll apologize and remove the offending entry and all will be sweet (I hope).

Everybody makes mistakes, so you can't really trust anything I say - hey, I might be trying to con you... Realistically, I don't think anyone will have problems with this blog, but you never know.

I'm disclaiming responsibility to the fullest extent of the law, for anything posted here. Use at your own risk, so if I say that my dog has two heads, you should check it out first before going to the newspapers...

Of course, if you do find something wrong... let me know the right answer and I'll fix it.

Oh and finally, I'm going to discuss a medical condition here - I'm not a doctor, and am probably not likely to be considered an expert. I may also get various conditions mixed up and say that something is a symptom of one when it really is the other.

Kid friendliness: Unlike my other blogs, this one may get a bit detailed and could lose some kid-friendliness. That said, the plan is to post things that I wouldn't be too worried about my kids reading (If they could read - they're too young at the moment). That said, I'm fairly liberal with censorship and my children, so read my articles carefully before letting your kids read them. (Just in case).

Ok now, on with the show?


A bit more disclaiming
This used to be a separate post but it interfered with the flow of the blog, so I've moved it here...

I think that it's fair to say that until you actually start posting to a blog you often don't quite know how it will shape up.

In my last post I made a number of sweeping statements and generalizations based upon my interpretation of my own condition.

I just want to point out that although I feel quite expert, having lived with Aspergers for my entire life, I've only really known that the condition existed for the last 2 or 3. Until then, I just thought I was weird.

I'm also partially deaf, so I always blamed my communications problems on deafness (until recently that is). My eldest son, Kaelan has been diagnosed with ADD as well as Aspergers, so any observations of his behaviour could be either condition (or, in both our conditions, something new entirely).

I guess what I'm trying to say is that everyone is different and that this blog is my understanding of my condition which hopefully will contribute to the sum of all knowledge on the Asperger's condition.

If you feel that your condition is different, don't take offense but please feel free to comment.


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