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Article: Avoiding Unsolicited Parenting Advice from Family

I found this article today. It's on ADHD but is equally applicable to Aspergers. In fact, personally, I think it suits Aspergers better than ADHD.

The article gives tips on travelling to family gatherings and helps you to avoid a common problem... Relatives trying to pin the condition on your parenting flaws.

If you've ever been told; “You really let her get away with a lot” or “If I had him for a week, he’d learn to obey.”, then this one is for you.

"You Just Need to be Firmer with Him" by Carol Brady Ph.D.

The article comes from additudemag.com. If you find it interesting, you can subscribe (it's free) and receive daily/weekly emailed articles from them.
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Kate said…
Thank you so much for this link. What a great article - with wonderful suggestions! It's definitely applicable for parents with an Asperger's child.
Thank you, also, for all the IEP information you have given. As a parent of a child diagnosed with Asperger's (although we knew it was there before the official diagnosis) two weeks ago, we are currently going through the IEP process. I just wish I'd found your information last week!
May 4, 2009 at 10:31 AM
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