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Series Articles

Since I do a lot of articles in serial format (Part 1,2,3 etc), it makes sense to collect them on an easy reference page.

Bullying and Bullies

An Introduction to Bullies and Bullying
The Primary School Bully (Elementary School)
The High School Bully (Secondary School)
Bullying outside of School (Tertiary & Social)
The Rise of Cyberbullying
Bullying in the Workplace
Making Yourself Less of a Target for Bullying
The Bully's Side of the Story

First Things First


A jointly-authored series aimed at getting parents of children with spectrum disorders to take time out to look after their own needs as well as those of their children.

Introducing the First Things First Series
"A Jaw Dropping Experience" by Marla Roth-Fisch
"Write It Down" by Jennie Linthorst
"The Vows of Special Needs Parents" by Chynna Laird
"All Showers Lead to Australia" by Hartley Steiner
“Togetherness; A Dad’s Perspective on Marriage” by Gavin Bollard
"Support Groups 101" by Carrie Fannin
"Sick and Tired" by by Amy Sheridan
"Finding My Inner-Self" By Diane M. Renna



Get Away from me with your "Perfect Kids"

A series which looks at what happens when support groups go bad.




The Drug Bandwagon

A discussion about the preparation and testing involved when you put your children on behavioral drugs.

The Drug Bandwagon - Introduction
The Drug Bandwagon - Ritalin


Improving Employment Prospects for Aspies

Part 1: Society
Part 2: What the Aspie can do
Part 3: What the Employer can do

See Also:
Helping your kids on the Spectrum to Find Employment
Part 1: The Statistics, and how to make those final School Years Count
Part 2: Your CV and Marketing yourself towards Jobs
Part 3: Surviving Interviews and Getting help from Organisations


Scouts and Scouting

What do the Scouts Actually Know about Special Needs?
Why is Scouting Particularly Suitable for Children with Special Needs | Part 1 | Part 2 |




So... Your Child has Aspergers

I received an email from a concerned parent who was struggling with her child's new label and I wrote a reply. Afterwards, when I re-read the reply, I thought that it might be a good thing to share with other parents who are in the same situation. So, names and places changed to protect the innocent, plus a whole lot more detail added, here it is;
| Part 1 | Part 2 |




The Individualized Education Plan (IEP) for School Children with Aspergers

A series explaining what an IEP, how to figure out what it means for your child and ways in which an IEP should be adjusted for an individual with Aspergers Syndrome.

The All Important Individual Education Plan (IEP)
Tailoring the Strengths and Weaknesses Part of the IEP to your Aspie Child
Setting up the IEP to Draw on your Child's Strengths to Assist his Weaknesses


Getting Empathy (Back) into Your Relationship

A series aimed at teaching people with Aspergers how to be more empathetic to others.
| Part 1 | Part 2 | Part 3 | Part 4 |


Aspergers versus Autism - The Great Label Debate

A look at the different points of view and the reasons (and excuses) on both sides for merging or not-merging the Aspergers label into the wider Autism Spectrum Disorders label.

Part 1: Introduction
Part 2: The Case For
Part 3: The Case Against
Part 4: My Thoughts


What is Aspergers: My Perspective

A series which aims to put a personal spin on the question of what exactly is Aspergers. In this series, I explore some of the theories and talk about my personal feelings on the subject.

Part 1: A General Overview
Part 2: Theories
Part 3: Labels and Tables
Part 4: Co-Conditions


Why do Aspies Suddenly Back off In Relationships?

A look at why people with Aspergers seem to suddenly go "cold" on perfectly good relationships for no particular reason.

| Part 1 | Part 2 | Part 3 |


The Aspie Senses

A look at the way in which people with Aspergers can get sensory overload.

| Part 1 | Part 2 |


Defining Ourselves via our Emotional Baggage

A look at the way in which our past seems to shape our present and future behaviour. How patterns of behaviour can solidify into Aspie "Rules".

| Part 1 | Part 2 |


Life as an Aspergian Female

Reviewing a discussion thread in which a woman talks about what it is like to be a female with Aspergers Syndrome.

| Part 1 | Part 2a | Part 2b |


Marriage Encounters


An in-depth look at the weekend which helped my wife and I salvage and renew our failing marriage.  Why it's particularly applicable to people with Aspergers partners and how you can use the things we learned in your own relationship.



Can Aspies Make Good Parents?



About Me - An Introduction



The Human Side of the Aspergers Diagnosis

| Part 1Part 2Part 3 |


Do Aspie Children know that they are Different?


Finding Conversational Balance


Aspergers and Depression

| Part 1 | Part 2 | Part 3 | Part 4 |


The Aspie Meltdown: An Insider's Point of View

| Part 1 | Part 2 |


Taking Things Literally

| Part 1 | Part 2: An Adult Perspective |


What People on the Spectrum can learn from Memes
Part 1: Female Behaviours and Attention Seeking
Part 2: Male Behaviours and Toxicity


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